The Real You in Real Life
Relate From Who You Are
Through your Book of You and Getting the Real You Dressed, you now know more about yourself than you ever have. You understand why you love what you love, and you've started expressing your authentic style in the world. When you look in the mirror, you feel good and you truly like who you see.
The next question is how to carry that knowing into the rest of your life.
How does the woman you now understand and embody make choices, build relationships, create her home, use her time and energy, communicate what she needs, relate in the world, and live a life that feels as authentic as she does?
The Real You in Real Life is where you learn how to take who you are now and weave it into every aspect of your life.
Relate From Your Center Point
You are not one woman in your closet, another in your relationships, and someone else again at work. You may express different parts of yourself in different situations, but each one is still an expression of the same woman.
So, the more clearly you know who you are, the more deliberately you can bring that knowing into every part of your life.
Midlife offers a new kind of freedom to look at your life through the lens of the woman you are today. You know more, trust yourself more, and may feel increasingly ready to make choices based on what is true for you now.
This is where your center point becomes so important. As you’ve already learned, or soon will, your center point is the place within you that feels most grounded, alive, and truly yours. It is your reference point and the place you return to as circumstances change, relationships evolve, responsibilities shift, and life asks different things of you.
From that center point, you begin asking questions. Does this feel true for me? Does this support who I am? Is this something I want to carry forward, adapt, or leave behind?
The Real You in Real Life asks you to look at what you value, how you communicate, where you feel at home, what brings you joy, how you live each day, who you are in relationship with, what your work means to you, and who your people are.
Each is an expression of the same woman, and together they weave the larger pattern of your life. The twelve houses of astrology give us a way to explore that pattern, always returning to you at the center.
The Twelve Aspects of Your Life
The first six begin with you and your inner world.
1st House
The Self You Bring Into the World
This is the starting point, where your Book of You and Getting the Real You Dressed began. Who are you when you are not shaping yourself around everyone else? How do you naturally enter a room, begin something, respond to life, and make yourself visible?
2nd House
What You Value
This is where we look at what you value and what's important to you. What deserves your time, money, energy, attention, and care? The more clearly you understand what you value, the easier it becomes to make choices that reflect what matters to you.
3rd House
How You Communicate
This is about your voice and the way you exchange ideas with the world around you. How do you write a letter or an email that sounds like who you really are and not what you think you should say? What helps you feel understood?
4th House
How You Create Home
This is home and family, where you come from and the things that ground you. Does the space you live in reflect who you are now, and does your home give you the foundation you need?
5th House
What Makes You Feel Alive
This is where we explore play, fun, creativity, romance, and self-expression. What brings you joy? Where do you feel most alive, expressive, and fully yourself?
6th House
How You Live Every Day
This is your health, rituals, routines, work, responsibilities, and the ways you serve and contribute to others. Does the way you live every day support who you are, your energy, and the life you’re creating? How do you bring your unique gifts into service while also tending to your own well-being?
From here, we take you out into the world…
7th House
How You Relate
This is the house of relationship, whether with a partner, a friend, or anyone else. You are a whole person merging with another whole person, while not abandoning your center point. What do you need to remain fully yourself while also making room for intimacy, collaboration, and compromise? How can you cultivate harmony in your relationships without sacrificing your own inner peace?
8th House
How You Share and Transform
This is where we look at what you invest in and what you can transform. Here we also explore trust, shared resources, and the transformations that ask you to evolve without losing the true you.
9th House
What Expands You
This is the house of wisdom and philosophy. What's important to you, what do you want to learn, and how do you learn? What are you still hungry to know, and what ideas, places, and experiences expand your understanding of yourself and the world?
10th House
How You Contribute
This is your career and how you relate in a public way. Knowing who you are and making sure others see it matters. What do you want to be known for now? Where do your abilities, values, and experience come together in a way that feels meaningful to you?
11th House
Where You Feel the Best
This is community and common causes, as well as the people you spend your time with. Who are your people now? When you know who you are, you know how to put yourself in the right situations and release those that aren't right for you.
12th House
How You Return to Yourself
This is the house of spirit, soul, and your inner world. Solitude, reflection, intuition, dreams, and restoration all live here. What helps you hear your own inner knowing and return to your center?
Each house builds upon the one before it, and together, all twelve complete the sphere of your life. As we work together, we may not move through these areas in order, as we'll begin with what feels most relevant to your wants and needs. However, we will explore all twelve, discovering how each area connects with and informs the others, creating greater coherence and a sense of resonance across your life.
The houses also exist in relationship with their opposites, which gives us another way to explore where balance may be needed and how one area of life can support another.
Wherever we begin, we keep returning to the same place. You, at your Center.
Working Together
My goal is for you to know yourself so well that you can hear your own yes, fully own your no, and know the reasons behind both.
This is where I come in as your guide. I am here to teach, reflect, encourage, ask questions, and help you recognize patterns and possibilities that can be difficult to see on your own.
We can work together in person or virtually, wherever you are. Whether we are sitting together in my atelier or meeting through a screen, our work is deeply personal and designed to help you look good, feel good, and make choices that enliven every area of your life.
As we work together, I'll invite you to look closely at the areas of your life that matter most, try some things on differently, notice how they feel, and approach certain situations with a beginner's mind. Then we pay attention together. What changed? What felt more like you? What became clearer? What possibilities opened that you had not considered before?
This is the good stuff. The moments of Oh, I didn't know that, and Oh, I did know that. Now I know why.
I also teach you my decision method of Alter, Adapt, Avoid, and Accept, a practical way to consider how you want to meet a situation from your center point. Sometimes something needs to change. Sometimes you adapt. Sometimes you step away. And sometimes you accept what is and decide how you want to relate to it.
And, to be clear, my role is to help you see yourself more clearly, not to tell you who to be. By midlife, I think we've all had enough of that!
This work is designed to help you understand yourself so well that you make choices with greater confidence, clarity, and trust in what you know.
Authenticity does not only live in one corner of your life. It is the thread running through all of it. As that thread becomes more clear, you recognize what works for you and why. You know what you value, what feels right, what gives you energy, what does not, and where you want to make a different choice.
You bring that knowing into your relationships, your home, your work, the people you spend time with, and the way you use your time, money, energy, voice, and creativity.
And you get to be your most beautifully expressed woman living it all.
You’re not different, although you’ll likely feel it.
When you drop the things that don't work, you attract things that do. Exciting and dangerous - relating from self rather than from what you’ve been told to.
Ready to Bring the Real You Into Real Life?
This work is for the woman who is ready to invest fully in herself.
In our one-on-one work, we focus on the areas of your life that matter most now.
Schedule a consultation and let’s explore.
This is your life. Let’s make sure the woman living it is You.
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